What If I’m Shy?


If you’re shy, talking to strangers may seem daunting. But there are a few simple things you can do to help you feel more confident!

My oldest child is very shy. If his friends come over, he’s happy to go play. But if he has to knock on their door, he’d rather stay home and ask me what he can do. Not the best question to ask someone who’s staring at a huge pile of unfolded laundry, little man!

He’s only 10, but there are some things I do to help boost his confidence. When we’re eating out, I have him order his own food. Last week at Taco Bell, he wanted another burrito. I handed him $2 and told him to go order it. He turtle walked up to the counter, but he did it! The next week his grandpa took him to Maverick and he paid for his own Icee. He was so proud of himself, and so excited to tell me all about it! If things like returning something to a store or calling to make your own dentist appointment are out of your comfort zone, start with those. The more you do, the more confident you’ll feel in doing it the next time!

If you’re close to mission age, ask the missionaries in your area if you can go with them to an appointment, or tracting for an hour. Have a scripture prepared in case they ask if you’d like to say anything. Even if you don’t share, you’ll get to watch what they do so you can better prepare your mind (and nerves!) to do it yourself.

And of course, pray for courage to be able to do it even if you’re nervous!

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